Here is the list of recommended readings to supplement your knowledge for the upcoming Gender Interactions Discussion Circle. Please do note that the discussion:
1) Would avoid discussing halal/haram issues with regards to premarital relationships
2) Would discuss the validity of the claim that love before marriage is a psychological delusion
3) Would assume on the premise that premarital relationships are haram (which of course is debatable but will not be debated during the discussion)
4) Would discuss the social impact of youth marriages as an alternative to premarital relationships, on the assumption that premarital relationships are haram
Romantic Love- Does It Exist?
http://www.tc.umn.edu/~parkx032/CY-HOAX.html
http://www.mwlusa.org/topics/gender_relations/socialinteraction.html
Abstain Now, Enjoy Life Later. Don't Date, So Marriage You'll Appreciate
http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/Satellite?c=Article_C&cid=1158321445433&pagename=Zone-English-Youth/YTELayout
Against (Minister's Speech on rising young marriages and the negative social implications)
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http://app.mcys.gov.sg/web/corp_speech_story.asp?szMod=corp&szSubMod=speech&qid=1622
Is teen marriage a solution?
http://www.clasp.org/publications/teenmariage02-20.pdf
Is teen marriage a solution?
http://www.clasp.org/publications/teenmariage02-20.pdf
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i am not sure whether anyone will visit this blog. but insyallah i hope that what i have to say will reach out to many.
yesterday i have mention about lowering of the gaze in the sunnah. i believe many may have misintepreted what i was trying to bring across due to the joke i have made before the message is brought across.
again, i re-interate that let us take the spirit of lowering of the gaze. lowering the gaze of the heart and the soul like one of our brothers in audience explained.
that was what i meant. taking the spirit of the sunnah that was brought up.
ahmad aizat
p.s. marriage being a multi faceted element of life, is a beautiful thing to me. anyone beg to differ?
Marriage is beautiful indeed. I agree. But marriage at times is viewed only as an alternative easy way out to 'make the haram halal.' As a result, such marriages are only 'legal' but not ethical and moral. And I am referring to nikah gantung here, a social contract devoid of proper responsibilities with serious negative repercussions that may impede the development of healthy future generations. Not forgetting, the burden that parents may have to bear for the young couple once the negative repercussions sink in
Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu,
I am your brother in islam and I love you all for the sake of Allah.
Lowering the gaze is not just sunnah, it is fardh and is found in Al Quran.
30. Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: And Allah is well acquainted with all that they do.
31. And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband's fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O ye Believers! turn ye all together towards Allah, that ye may attain Bliss.
Surah An Nur
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam had said that those who can afford it should marry and if they are not able to, they should keep fast.
Fasting diminshes our desires and we will be able to lower our gaze better.
Wassalam
Mosa
Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu,
Also, one sunnah muakaddah that is continously being neglected by muslim brothers is prayer of salaat with imam jamaat in masjid.
Similarly, the one who performs his Esha Salaat with jamaat gets the reward for having spent half the night in ibaadat(worship). If he then performs his Fajr Salaat with jamaat, he gets the reward for spending the entire night in ibaadat. (Sahih Muslim Vol.1 Pg.232) A little effort will not only save one from the excruciating punishment of the hereafter but will also earn one great reward.
http://www.alinaam.org.za/library/scorrect02.htm
Insha allah, we must try and revive the prophetic sunnah for the best way to show love for the prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam is to follow the sunnah.
PS:I am sorry to have posted here as it is not the topic. Pls forgive me.
I also ask everyone to make dua for me that I will be free from and that I will enter Jannathul Firdaus. I also ask everyone to make dua for me that my family will enter Jannah and that Insha allah, I can marry a pious wife who will be the coolness of my eyes.
Jazakallah Khair
Wasallam
Mosa
Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu,
I am your brother in islam and I love you allfor the sake of Allah
Firstly, lowering the gaze is a fardh(obligatory) and not a sunnah. SO, it is something that we must follow as Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam said that
there is adultery with the eyes.
Some muslim brothers and sisters do not cover their awrah when it is fardhu ain upon them. Muslimahs have to cover themselves except their face, fingers and palms of hand and their
feetin front of non mahrem male. Alas some do not do that. Muslim brothers have to cover their awrah from navel to knee in front of all people. Muslim brothers wearing shorts do
for sports fail to fulfil the requirement of sharia. Insha allah, we should try to follow all this
Also, some muslim brothers and sisters engage in relationships before marriage when it is prohibited and muslim women should not be alone in a confined place with a non mahrem male.
So, muslimin and muslimah should avoid as this is adultery and islam tells us to not even go near adultery.We can avoid this by lowering our gaze. Our main purpose in this life is to worship Allah.
Everything else is secondary. So, we must bear that in mind and should always to strive to apply the teachings of Islam
Finally, true success in this world and Akhirah lies in following the commandments of Allah in the way shown by Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Succes is not measured by wealth, education etc.
Insha allah, we should strive towards that and try to educate our fellow brothers about matters concerning deen.
Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu
I am your brother in islam and Ilove you all for the sake of Allah.
Please do not discuss about predestination and free will without knowledge as it is dangerous.
Hadith - Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah, Narrated 'Aisha
I heard Allah's Messenger saying: He who discusses about the Divine Decree (al-Qadr) will be answerable for it on the Day of Resurrection and he who observes silence about it, will not be answerable for it.
Jazakallah Khair
Wassalam
Mosa
Salam,
Pls do note that the objective of the discussion is to provide awareness on the topic and impart the correct message with regards to Al-Qadr.
The Mu'tazilahs and the Ash'arites have discussed it before. Al-Qadr is an important pillar of faith.
With regards to the hadith, pls verify whether its sahih or not? Thx.
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